So I came home from work this last Friday, and I

see something posted on my front door.

I was curious. I thought maybe it was somebody trying to sell something.

And then I park my car. I get out of my car,

go up to my front door. I pull this notice off my door. And one

of my neighbor. I live in an apartment complex. One of the neighbor boys said,

hey, is that an eviction notice? And I hadn't looked

at it yet. And sure enough, I looked at this piece of paper and it

said, you have three days to vacate. I didn't want to lie

to the kid. And so I was feeling kind of embarrassed because I've never

gotten an eviction notice. And I said, you know,

yes, it actually is, but it's a mistake. And he

said, are you going to be leaving? I said, no, I'm not going to be

leaving. I would have

overreacted to that. And I'm going to share this whole story throughout this

podcast. But. But I realized after that situation, I

was able to stay positive, even though it was a really. I'm laughing about it.

I wouldn't even talk to people about this situation. I'd been so embarrassed about

it four years ago, but now I can see it's an opportunity

to grow and to learn. And I'm not getting evicted. I'm

not getting evicted.

So today in the Decide youe Legacy podcast, I'm gonna talk to you about going

seven times bigger with your life. So seeing how

setbacks are opportunities, and when you have this big vision for your future,

little things like getting an eviction notice are not gonna be your big deal.

So three ways for you to go seven

times bigger. I mean, going bigger with your life, seeing what your potential

is. Dreaming, having this ideal being, being

willing to say, I can go to a much higher

level with what I want to achieve in my life. I have one life.

I get to make the most of this or I don't. By the end of

this podcast today, you are going to see the

benefit of dreaming big. You are going to see that

you have opportunities that you haven't actually even grasped. You're going to be

willing at the end of this to actually step back and say,

just as an exercise, I'm going to think of how good my life can actually

be. My relationships, my business, my career, my

health, my financial condition, my adventures

in life. I love Abraham Lincoln.

I've. For years, I had a picture on my wall that said

Lincoln's failures. He was somebody that had a vision for

the future. That's at Least my perception of him. And it listed

on this picture all these different failures in his life. He had a business

that failed. He ran for public office and he failed. He

had a. His first fiance died. He

had to go and put himself self educate himself

and he continued to persist. That's the goal of having

this much bigger. Not just a two times vision, not just a five

times vision, but a seven times vision, a ten times vision.

You go much bigger in your life. He persisted because he had this big vision

in his mind. So I'm your host, Adam Gragg. I'm a legacy coach

and I'm a family therapist. I have been working in

this field for over 25 years and I'm dedicated to

helping other people

live with courage. People in organizations and

it takes you stepping back to dream to actually

get there. I recently faced one fear and it

was to choose to let go of this eviction notice. All right, so

to not let it ruin my weekend. It was right at the end of the

day. I chose to right after that talk to a friend and now

I'm just joking about it because they got paid. All right, so I'm not leaving.

I've been there seven and a half years and I'm going to share the end

of the story at the very end of the podcast as well. So you want

to stick around to check that out. I struggle with

dreaming big because my inner roommate has all

kinds of excuses. I'll let myself down if I dream.

I'll let other people down if I dream and I share it with

them. Have you seen that in other people? They don't even want to

go there. You ask them, well, what do you want in your future? What

do you want for your business? And they say, oh, well, you know, I'll never

get there. Or they just express this negativity about the situation

and if they go into their business that way, they're going to be

repulsing other people because everyone wants to do business with

a winner. I know if I've closed something big,

then that's a great time for me to call another business because I know

I'm going to present myself with confidence in that situation. I'm seeing how good it

can actually be because I had a big sale or I had a

success with a client, a breakthrough with somebody, and I'm energized by it.

You can train yourself to do that every single day, but

we get stuck in anxiety and fear and ruminating and

focusing on how bad it can be. And I'll never get out of this, I'm

never going to make progress. I and it'll drive you crazy. Have you seen

that in your friends and your family? You just know when you go to them,

it's gonna be the negative. So we have three ways today to break

these excuses and to go bigger in your vision, to go bigger

with your life. The first way is to get help.

Don't go at it alone in this thing because other people have

different attitudes and different strengths and they're gonna help you see your

potential. If you keep trying to do it on your own,

you're gonna get the same brick walls that you run into. Other

people's perspectives are gonna help you see how good it actually can be. I

had a client yesterday, he runs a division of a company, it's

$40 million in revenue. And I wrote

7x

ideal on my whiteboard and I said, what does it look like for

you? You have 25 years, you got 30 years, you decide the timeframe.

What, what is seven times bigger? And he had

$250 million down there. And then we broke

it down. He was actually ashamed or he didn't even want to actually see me

write it down because to him that was somehow going to hold him

accountable to getting there. And I believe this guy can do it. I believe this

guy has business opportunities that can get there. He's in a profession

where people spend a lot of money on high ticket items.

And you know, a typical project that he's involved in, it can

easily be a million dollars as a project because it's in the

commercial business to business realm. But that

to him was scary. And when you get some help,

you're going to start getting help from like minded people, from people who are

willing to dream, not from scared Eeyore types. I mean,

you're talking to people who are wanting to go big themselves, which

I want to go big. So I like to let my clients go big. And

in that process, I had him back out of it. So,

meaning what I asked him is if you're going to get to a certain

level in a year that's leading you towards this ideal

250 million, well, what has to be true in the next three

months. And for him, he rattled some things off quickly.

It was very clear to him that he needed to focus on very

specific tasks. And one of those was he needs to hold people

accountable, that he leads and do a much better job at that, having courageous

conversations. He needs continue to talk about the vision

for other people and have these metrics that lead towards that vision that he's holding

people accountable to. And he needs to develop leaders in

his departments and needs to hire people

that are leaders that can lead in these departments. So it was hiring,

it was accountability and it was vision. He had it very clearly spelled out. And

we spent the majority of the coaching session talking about this so that he was

going to take and it was him getting help from me. But you

can get help from going through a course. You can get help from talking to

your friends who are healthy, if that's your ideal. You can get help from talking

to your friends who have great marriages or talking to people who have good relationships.

And you want to have relationships like those relationships that you perceive

that they have. And you know what? Appearances are deceiving. So you want to actually

dig deep to make sure they really do have a good marriage. And you can

get a gist, you can get the gist of that as you get closer to

them. But get help, solicit help. It feels

good to get help. It's not a sign

of weakness. It's actually a sign of tremendous strength

when you realize that other people are better at things than you are

and you don't need to be a jack of all trades. I've shared before that

I thought I was good at details. I've realized over time that I'm not good

at details. I just wanted to be good at details. I want to be

when it comes to. To digging into numbers and when it

comes to seeing the nuance in certain things, I'm not good at

it. But other people around me are. Thank goodness for that. So the

second way that you can have an ideal seven times vision

is to have

faith, to get faith. So in my

life, when I realized my feelings are not facts,

it helps me greatly. Remembering the

challenging situations that I've gotten through in my life gives me faith to handle the

difficult situations that come my way. So as when I got that eviction

notice, I was fairly quickly after a couple hours, I'm not saying it didn't

sink in a little bit. Kind of scared me. I thought, are they going to

be knocking on my door in two days and then trying to move me out?

Am I going to get a sheriff knocking at my door? But the faith was

to remember that I have gotten through very difficult situations with my

friends and with my faith. And the faith we're

talking about here is that I'm going to make it through, that I can carry

myself in these difficult, challenging situations even when I experience

rejection, even when it doesn't Go my way. Even when I experience

situations relationally that I wish were better, even when I

feel rejected and abandoned or whatever it may be, I

can hold on to the fact that I've gotten through very difficult situations.

And those difficult situations can get me

through. I went through a almost.

Well, I went through losing a marriage. I've gone through

not getting sleep for long periods of time and ending up in the

hospital because I couldn't sleep. I've gotten through

almost losing a business because of my own

junk. I've gotten through difficult,

traumatic situations. I've gotten

through anxiety. And you can get through as well. So if

you have an eviction notice, which I hope you don't, you can get through. Just

pay your rent. First of all. Again, I'm going to share the rest of this

story at the end of this. So. And. And pay your rent.

Sure, sure. But the faith will get you through

talking to another client yesterday who has felt like his marriage

isn't in a great situation or hasn't been for a period of

time. I can at times see him grasp

the fact and borrow the hope that I have and the faith that he's had

at times in his life to see that it can get better and that there

is something good on the other side. It takes two to

tango. I get it. But to have hope is so incredibly

energizing. You focus on the times where your business was doing better,

where your marriage was better, where your relationships with your kids are

better, and that gives you hope. And I've gotten through so many things

in the past, and I can get through it again. And that'll help

me to want to go big. Because if I go seven times bigger, I have

the faith and the trust that I can actually get there as I keep

moving forward. And it is a process. Lincoln didn't get to the

presidency without going through a process. And every step of the way, he

didn't give up because he knew that he had

something bigger and it was much bigger. Maybe you don't want to be president,

but there's something much bigger for you, encourage you to dream. And you

can do that by in the course,

Shatterproof Yourself Light, which I'd encourage you to subscribe to and

go through and hit the link to engage in. So one of the first sections,

the first section is to clarify a vision. And I challenge you in there, these

little brief two to three minute videos. I challenge you to start dreaming

big about how big, how good your life can be in just one year.

That exercise is invigorating. And the faith

I'm talking about too is you're letting go of these thoughts of saying

this inner roommate chiming in, saying, it won't work, it won't go well. You won't

get there. You're going to fail. You're choosing to let go of that.

And so the second way that you can go seven times bigger is you can

start to grasp the fact that you can commit to

things in your life. You are willing to go seven times bigger.

And a dream when you realize that you can go, you have committed to things

in your life. That's why the one step that I'll have

people take is to just get up on time for seven days.

Just get up on time. In order to get up on time, you got to

go to bed on time. And so it's going to motivate you in two ends

of your day. Your bookends. Your bookends are really important. Get up on

time tomorrow. Can you do that? Yes, I can.

That's gonna change and show you you can commit to one little thing

that can lead to another thing and another thing and another thing. You're proving to

yourself that you can commit without perfection. So let's say you don't.

You say you're gonna get up at 6am and you get up at 6:15. That's

still a win. We're not talking about perfection here. When you

commit, you're identifying what actions you can

take to get towards this ideal vision. Just like this client yesterday, he made a

decision at the end of that sess. I'm committing and I'm

writing it down to recruiting because I know that's one of the

strategic objectives I must tackle in

order for me to get to 250 million. And he was willing to

write it down, which was really positive. And I can tell, I could

sense that his creativity was starting to be triggered because he

was going seven times bigger. And that's be. That's what happens when you dream. That's

why we have to dream so big. Because we're letting go of just two times,

just going small. And we're saying, I'm willing to

let go of this smallness. And stuff will happen

inside of you where you notice opportunities and people

and people you can ask for help, situations that you

didn't even see because you were willing to let go of that anxiety

and fear that kept you small and be willing to dream for just a

moment. That is really powerful. So you commit. That's the third way

you channel that commitment. And on the next podcast that

I'm going to record. We're going to talk about a way to

commit. It's the Daily Action worksheet where. This is

where I start with clients. This is where I start my day. You commit

to this activity and it's going to make a big difference in your life. I'm

going to walk you through that Daily Action worksheet in the next episode.

So that eviction notice, let's go ahead and talk about that for a second. Okay,

so the. I was, I don't. I didn't have to leave my apartment.

I went and interestingly enough, that was on a Friday. But on

Tuesday, I didn't see my rent taken out of my account

and I went to the office and we have a new management company. And there's

one person that's still on that management team. She was with the old management

company and she's in on the new management company. Everybody else is new, so I

don't know the people very well, but I know her. And I went in on

Tuesday and I said, you know, my rent hasn't been taken out. And I asked

her and she said, well, it's in process. And so I just let go of

that and I thought, well, it must be in process. I don't see it out

of my account. But I was concerned because it's a new management company, it's a

new process, the whole thing. And I used to pay with paper check. I've lived

there seven and a half years and I haven't. I pay my rent. So. And

I knew in that interaction, I thought if there was a problem that,

well, I'd figure it out. I get a phone call or whatever and. And they

have to deal with lots of people. There's over 200 units in my apartment complex.

So I'm. I'm not blaming them. It's on me to make sure that that transaction

actually had happened. I get it. That's why I was willing to pay the $50

late fee. But in that process, some good

things happen because I realized it's not that big of a deal. I'm going to

get through it. And this is just another thing that I can use to help

clients who go through challenging situations. You know,

I don't think it's going to go and show up on my credit. Don't really

care about my credit score that much anyway. But, oh, well, you know, I

have good credit score. Who knows, I may need it someday, I guess, but not

really a high value thing for me. But I'd

like to pay and keep things under wraps. I wasn't

evicted. I still have a place to live and I

still like where I live. All of that and I now

have good ammunition. Some stuff to challenge other people so how to go

7 times bigger 3 ways 1. Get help. They'll

challenge you to go 7 times bigger. Ask for their feedback. They won't

let you. These like minded people, they won't let you stay small. Number two get

faith. Choose to have faith and remember that you can get through

difficult situations and you can get towards that ideal vision. Not perfectly

but you can make steps towards. Maybe you go three

times but it's much bigger than staying small. And the third way

is to commit and trust that you can commit. Which will encourage you to see

that you can engage this process to go bigger in your life. If

you found this content help this content helpful Check out Shatterproof

Yourself Lights because that first section is on

clarifying a vision and it's free. And you can download the Daily Action worksheet. You

can download the Shatterproof Light worksheet. You can fill that out. Go on it.

Engage it on your own. This is where I start. In fact if people are

gonna work with Decide youe Legacy, I start them here. I have a new potential

client coming in tomorrow. I start em here. Someone on my team has somebody there.

It's potential client. We start em by going through this content. It's

gonna inspire you and help you greatly. And there's a full version as well

so you'll find that helpful and you may wanna jump in and and just engage

that full version of Shatterproof Yourself. Seven small steps to a giant

leap in your mental health so nothing will make

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positive change until you decide. Deciding

means to commit. It means letting go

of giving up. And your legacy is

what you leave to others when you're gone. It's the impact your life has on

other people. You decide your legacy. Nobody else.

So in closing I want to close the same way that I always do.

Live the life today that you want to be remembered for 10 years after you're

gone. You decide your legacy. Nobody else.

I appreciate you greatly and I'll see you next time.