Had a rough conversation over lunch with a family

member, and it impacted me.

It brought me back to some fears that I

have, and it was a challenge. I am

struggling even right now to talk because it impacted

my mojo, my confidence, you know, And I have

a speaking event tomorrow. Got to get my stuff

back, you know, and in fact, it's a great topic for us to talk about

because as leaders, we have to do things when we've been

rocked a bit and we're not

feeling the energy, we're not feeling the confidence.

We're going to talk to you today about how leaders can

rebuild their confidence. When you are aware

that you don't have it, you can take actions, get new

experiences, get. Gain that confidence back.

Seven things you can do today.

So welcome to the Decide youe Legacy podcast. Great topic for you today. I'm

Adam Gragg, and I'm with two of my friends here that work for Decide youe

Legacy assistant and legacy coaches.

So I'm legacy coach and a family therapist, founder of

Decide youe Legacy. We help businesses and leaders live courageously,

which means you're doing something in the face of your fears

that you don't necessarily want to do, but you're still actually doing it.

Everyone is a leader. We help leaders. Everyone is a leader. You have friends, family,

you have neighbors. You have people you can influence. So I'm here today with Sherman

Orr, legacy coach at Decide youe Legacy, and Kelsey Torkelson,

also assistant legacy coach at Decide youe Legacy. They're gonna share their insight about these

seven tips as well, and their experiences as well. We're doing something a little bit

differently today. They're gonna chime in, not ask me questions, but just

chime in on the topic as they go. So as we share you can,

they're gonna give you some great insights. So the struggle that we can

have that I see leaders having with confidence is

it's pretty much immobilizing if they get stuck in it in

their head and they don't move forward because they don't feel like they

have the faith in themselves and trust in themselves in that moment to push ahead.

But that's really often where they're just about to make a breakthrough. Yes.

Very end of the process. So I know I shared my

struggle, and it's a. It's a daily struggle that I can have with

insecurity. It's also a daily struggle when I can feel confident,

but I know that when I'm feeling confident, I'm doing things differently than when I'm

Feeling insecure, right? Exactly. I mean, I have the same struggle with confidence

from time to time. Is like, just

the other day, there was a group of people that were. I needed

to meet, and I had to go talk to them and make them feel

at ease. And I was thinking to myself, well, you know, they don't

want to talk to me. It's just, I'll just leave them

alone. I'll stay in my office. And like, no, you need to

step out in confidence, even though you're not feeling it, and do

the action. And afterwards I thought, oh, that wasn't as hard as I thought it

was. But in the beginning, I thought I was going to die. Well,

I've struggled with confidence because my whole life and

being on this podcast is way outside my comfort zone because I, a

lot of times don't feel like I have a lot to add or value.

But I have learned that I do have some things to add and people

do want to hear what I have to say. You're invaluable. You're invaluable. Appreciate you

mentioning that. So a fear that I've faced recently, and I share fears with

you because nothing's more valuable to your mental health than facing your fears and doing

stuff that are scary. It's scary. You both have shared some different things.

And so, I mean, it's a. It's a fear right now for me to step

on this. And not the best mindset. Like, my fear is that, okay, I'm going

to mess it up because I don't feel like I'm on my A game and

letting go of that, which is great. So. But you want to face your fears

because action is what changes things. Remember, if you listen to this podcast and you

don't apply something from it, it's not going to help you. What you take away

and you apply, that's going to be 80% of the transformational change

that you're going to have. So by the end of this episode, you're going to

have some things you can do as a leader when you're not feeling confident. To

gain your confidence, apply it. And if you find this podcast helpful, tell

your friends, subscribe, give it a rating, and review it helps it grow

organically and as well. So think about, if you are

not already some area of your life where you don't have a lot of confidence

that you want to face. It could be a relationship. It could be some health

challenge. It could be some career issue. It could be a person that you work

with. Where are you playing it safe. And this

is going to give you the confidence to actually move forward. So let's go ahead

and jump into these seven steps. And, you know, the

way I think about it too, is if you're going to make yourself more or

shatterproof, like the windshield on a 787, which has

five layers, do these things, you're gonna be feeling insecure, but at the end

of it, one of them will help you. They can all help you. And you

can do them all at the same time if you want. But first one is

to build your confidence as a leader, is to go and step back and say,

how am I not engaging a vision in my life? A vision's gonna excite

you. You're seeing what good can actually happen in a year, in two years and

three years, just even today. You visualize it so I can know

again. I'm going to speak tomorrow. And by just saying to myself, how can I

see myself being confident? And visualize that in my head. How will I feel?

How will I talk when I'm confident? I talk slower.

I let myself be more spontaneous.

I end up sharing things off the cuff. When I'm

confident, I pick up on the audience and what they're

doing and saying and the questions that they have. I'm more attuned to how others

are picking up on certain pieces of information. You're being present

to people around you when you're confident. I'm having fun too,

and it's not a burden, it's not draining. I'm not thinking about what I'm

going to say next. I'm just thinking about what's going on in this specific moment.

And that gives me the sense of enjoyment in that situation. And

that's having a vision. You know, great pieces of art. I

love to look back at pictures that Emerson and I have seen in

museums of famous art. Just yesterday, I was looking at Starry

Night by Van Gogh, and it was just a picture of her looking at

Starry Night. Because they let you take pictures of it and you think Van Gogh

had a vision. I wonder when that vision started for that picture. Yeah,

I could probably find out. But maybe. Maybe he didn't even

know. Maybe he had it planted in his mind. He had this image that he

could paint at some point, but it was 10 years earlier. And then he finally

put it on canvas. We have these things. And I'd find that

even the vision I've had to launch Shatterproof and get it out to people to

help people with confidence. I mean, I've Held back a lot because I've had that

vision for a long time. But then that last 10%, which, you know, has been

hard, has been. Because then I can get. It's kind of like

I can get rejected. I can get criticized. Don't want to put it out there

at times. Yeah. So to clarify your vision, you have to have that roadmap. I

think of Michelangelo and. And how those guys

sculpted out of marble. I mean, you think about it, you can have the

vision, but then they had to have a roadmap. Where am I going to go

to finish the David or the Pieta or whatever

happens to be. And so same, actually, in my own personal life. I

was told a long time ago, when I was a youngster, about write

down a schedule and keep to it as best you can, because that's

your roadmap to success. Like working out,

taking hours to play, hours to

work, all those kind of things, writing that out and then that as I look

at my week, my month, my year, that gives me a

roadmap to my success with my vision. And I can change

things as my vision clarifies every day as I

walk. Through this process, before I met Adam, I didn't

really have a schedule. I would just fly by the seat of my

pants. And now Adam has taught me the importance

of a schedule, and now I am more intentional with my time.

And when I'm more intentional with my time, I am finding

that I definitely can fit a lot more into my

schedule than I originally thought. That's pretty amazing, because other things

that don't align with your vision, where you want to go, then

you learn to say no to them. And it's often people. It's often

situations, but you learn to say, this is not the best thing for me now.

And we're fighting that battle. It's so much noise out there. But the vision helps

you stay on track. Yes. You know, interesting thing about the David. I went and

saw the David, and it's in Florence, Italy. And he carved the

David, Michelangelo, when he was 26. But he had many,

many, many failures after that. Like pieces of marble. If you made a mistake, I

mean, that marble would be scrap. They have the. In the museum, all these statues

that he carved that he tried to carve, but they were only halfway done.

Wow. Because he, like, he's almost one of his first tries that he got the

David done, which is pretty amazing. You know, when he painted the Sistine Chapel, he

was in his 80s, maybe even his 90s. I mean, he was much older but

he did that when he was 26. Amazing. Pretty amazing.

Yeah. So the second, if you want to work on your confidence is go ahead

and step back from your life and be willing

to say to yourself, there's something from my past that impacts how I'm making

decisions today. It takes a lot of maturity and

courage to look and say that is triggering me. But it's based on something that

happened before. You're getting some space from it. But be

willing to write something down. All of these things are

actions that you're going to have to physically do. A vision that you just

have in your head. No, you have to take an action to share it with

somebody, your past. You have to take an action and go ahead and

talk to somebody about it and write it down and be willing to say like

this, this is something I'm carrying with me and I don't have to carry that

anymore. And there's certain situations in my life that are triggering that

and I'm going to deal with that. I'm going to actually face it.

So, so it's not real for the moment. It's

in your past and so you can recognize it's

influencing me in this way or that way. And then you're able

to really face it and work through it at that moment.

If you keep denying it, keep saying, oh, there's nothing wrong, there's nothing

wrong. It's not just a river in Egypt. It's not just, yeah, because then

it's because maybe you're doing something that's not helping you

in your life because it's a, it's a self

protective part that learn to be self protective

because you were hurt and you're making decisions because

you're taking orders from that part of your life where maybe you

get into destructive relationships or you're defensive or

you're have an addiction, you drink and you realize

it's because that part of your past used that to

cope and you don't need to do it now. But that self

honesty, the self awareness will put

you back when you're struggling in confidence. It'll maybe just

not immediately, but start to give you some perspective. To say

my struggle here with my insecurity is because I'm

carrying this with me. Yeah, I have a history of addiction

and I realized that if I didn't face my

addiction, I was just going to live in it. And unless we

face our past, we never can help others either.

So that's my big thing is like I want to get through all the junk

in my Past because I don't want others to suffer and struggle.

Like I've struggled. That's a really powerful point. Because it motivates you, Kelsey. And

I've seen that. Yeah. In your life that you're really motivated. This is really something

like you're. You're really. I've seen you being very motivated to work on yourself when

you identify that this is going to help you to help other people. Yeah. Which

is super healthy. It's like, don't change for other people, change

for yourself. It's like somebody gets sober because they want to, you

know, attract a really attractive woman and they couldn't. You know what I'm saying? Like,

that's not going to stick the same way. But to actually have the impact on

somebody else, broadly speaking, there's kind of a fine line there. But I've seen that

in you. Yeah. It becomes your greatest asset. Your

weakness of the past or your difficulties of the past life now

has made you so much more open and helpful

to everybody because of that asset. Absolutely. So.

And you know, as I go through this content, Sherman and Kelsey know this as

well. There. There's a mini course that we have developed. It's free. It's called Shatterproof

Yourself Light. And all seven of these steps to building self confidence are listed in

there. And there's a worksheet you can print off and some examples. It's a brief

course you go through, but it's for you to get this content

to sink in deeper. So I'd really encourage you to check that out and go

through the worksheet. Cause it's gonna tie this in a really fine. It's

gonna tie a nice bow on it. So the third thing you can do if

you're struggling with insecurity, and this is what I told my friend Troy to do

today, is to go ahead and identify.

Cause you're struggling with something. But start to identify

how, like you can add value to other people's lives. And again, write it

down like this is how you can make a difference in somebody's life.

That will start to give you confidence. Cause you show up people for the

right reasons to have an impact. And you're going to see the value

bring and that's going to create more and more excitement. And it's no longer about

you because that insecurity is really about you. It's like you're focusing on.

You don't want to feel that way. You don't want to feel insecure. You want

to get away and escape. But then you Realize that I can go tomorrow and

speak to some people and maybe encourage a few of them because I have information

that could possibly help them that starts to take away that lack of confidence

and give me some excitement to have an impact in that situation. Exactly. I mean

you have to, you do have to know your value because that's

one of the building blocks obviously of the shatterproof. But because

that is who you really are and you have to be very

careful, doing those first three steps really helps you focus

on the fact that what the world says or TV

commercials say isn't real. That's or what you see

on the soap operas. That's not real. And that's not how everybody is. You've

got your own life with its own issues. But deep down inside

you're valuable because you have worth. Because you're bringing something

to the world that's unique and only manifested

in you. And that's a powerful guy given. Yes. And it's based

on all these unique things that you've been blessed with that you're

probably ultimately because you're letting your pastor go in and because

your insecurities are driving the ship. You know, they're. That you're not

actually tapping into the stuff that's really going to add the most value. Yeah. I

mean, why you? It's God given. I go back to

Jesus and the way he treated everybody. He didn't treat them according to his

their past. He said you're very true. You're valuable

now. Where you're at with all the ugliness that may be

involved in your life. You're valuable now. And that's why I'm a stop and talk

to you. And that's a powerful lesson for all of us. Oh my gosh. He

said powerful things because the woman at the

well he'd been married five times and he used her. He didn't

look at her as like a broken person. He looked at her as somebody with

great value. It's so absolutely. That's something I just read the other day. So

it's in our brokenness that in our realness that we're able

to reach people. Because people don't want perfection. They

don't connect to perfection. They connect to people that are authentic and

real. But perfection just why does it

keep draw. I mean like, you know, why do we strive for. Why do we

let it immobilize us though? It's like I'm so freaking lack compassion with

myself at times and it's because I just look at the things I'm doing wrong,

not the things I'm doing right. Perfectionism is not a virtue.

Not a virtue. So we got the first three. Now the fourth is to shift

your perspective. I got, we have this bookmark we give to clients. There's seven

questions on it. And if somebody with anything they're struggling with, they can just answer

these seven questions. And I'm not going to say it's magic, but I am going

to say it's an action you can take to verbalize

your answers to those questions. And it's going to change your perspective about

whatever you're dealing with, give you a much healthier perspective. Not based on the

worst outcome, not based on something bad happening, not based on your

failures, but based on the potential. And this is what leaders

do. We go back and look and have the self awareness to say

I'm thinking about this in the wrong way. I'm going to go ahead and shift

it. I'm going to add some truth to it. Yeah, that's

absolutely imperative. I was just listening to somebody talk

about, I think it's George Bernard show Shaw who said there are

men who look at life and accept the

reality that's there, which is kind of maybe me

versus there's men who look at life and refuse to

accept it. And it's those who change the world.

And so that's one of the things is shift your perspective. What's

limiting you? Oh, nobody from Wichita has ever

built this contraption or started a company like this.

Well, if you're going to keep li living that way and thinking that way,

it's never going to get done. But maybe you're the one who's going to get

Witcha as the air capital of widgets. Oh yeah.

Yes. Who had ever thought that

Witchita would be the air capital of the world? Private,

private aircraft. You know, it's kind of strange. People hear that sometimes.

For me, I think that if I can go to the worst case

scenario a lot. So if I go to the worst case scenario, I also have

to remind myself that I have to go to the best case scenario because a

lot of times it falls in between. It's not the worst and it's not the

best. It's right there in between. So I shift my perspective from the

negative to what could possibly happen. That's good.

And you're very skilled at that. With other people, if they are

negative and fearful, you, you ask the questions to get them to.

You've done it with me many, many times to go and say, well, what else

could happen Here, what's a better perspective? I wonder if you

realize it's funny how you may struggle that with yourself,

but you're much better at helping somebody else. It

happens all the time, I think. Yeah, yeah. Your

weakness. You're able to help in your

weakness. Let's use scripture in your brokenness.

God finds power. God finds power. Yeah. And you got to go to gratitude.

So if you think of the Dyl tree, the decided legacy tree, spiritual family,

friends, intellectuals, I mean you just a quick activity is just to list

something that you're grateful for in each of those areas. Gratitude,

absolutely necessary to get through life and to get through anything.

It's the foundation of it all, is so important. I was

struggling with that on Sunday. Feeling lonely. Feeling lonely,

you know, having those moments, you know. So the

fifth thing you can do to go ahead. Fifth.

The fifth thing is own your emotions. You can deal with your emotions. So you

go and step back and I'm struggling with confidence. But what can I do to

get a grip on my emotional health right here? And finding ways

to identify how you feel and journal about it. Say, I'm

feeling this because. And what is this telling me? It's

almost like a trailhead on a hike. You

know, you find the trailhead, you can at least start to

go on the journey towards the destination. Now you'd never get there

if you didn't eventually find the trailhead. It's this self discovery of what

is this emotional reaction I'm having this

situation? You know, I was feeling jealousy pretty strongly recently.

Jealousy for other people who have things that I wish I would have.

Jealousy for people who have life

situations and circumstances that are different than mine.

And then if I can identify that I'm feeling

jealous, then I can unpack that with some truth. But that

emotional work is hard, but it's so powerful. I think once you start

to do it. I find that people, when you're struggling with confidence, you're able to

identify what's really driving this lack of confidence. And you

pinpoint it and it's no longer ambiguous. And there's some truth to it that

I'm lacking confidence because I had a difficult conversation with a

family member a couple hours ago. Okay, I can deal with that

now. Yeah. And now I can talk to somebody and I did talk to you

guys about it and I talked to others about it. So now I can deal

with it. Yeah, it helps begin that resilience in you and

that ability to bounce back much quicker and have that self

confidence that you need. Right. That could Derail people? Yes. Or even

derail me with escapism, because I have a part of me that likes to run

an escape from all kinds of uncomfortable feelings. But now I can look at the

feeling and say it's not about running from it, it's about identifying it

and starting to walk down that take the trail

to a better place. Feelings aren't facts. You have told

me that several times. And emotions are just clues on

things that we need to work on. And anytime I have

uncomfortable feelings, I always like to go, what's beyond?

What's beneath this feeling? What is the real thing, the issue?

What are the uncomfortable feelings you might struggle with? Guys, when you're struggling with

confidence, what are the specific emotions? Oh, I think

I would say actually, just like you, I would say jealousy and,

oh, it just flitted out of my mind. But I'd say jealousy

is a big one because we're not confident

where we're at right now in our own life, in our own skin, in

our own financial bracket, all those kind of things. And we just think,

gosh, I wish I had this. Instead of just living where I'm at

right now, changing my perspective and going back to who am

I? And then going forward from there and saying, I

can handle this, I am facing all

the past, I'm knowing my value and I can keep moving forward.

I would say I struggle with anger and

insecurity and all of the things,

let's see, want me to stop? Please stop.

And that's the deal, you guys. As leaders, you're struggling with confidence. You're just going

to be able to unpack some of the emotions behind that and figure out where

it's leading, what it's telling you. So six action you can take

work on your confidence is just do some self care. And this is a little

bit interesting for me, but I've realized over time that self care, one of the

most powerful things I can do is to focus less on myself.

Focus less on myself is caring for myself. I'm realizing that I have

off, I have things to offer other people when I'm

really beating myself up the most and when I'm struggling the most, I'm just in

my own head and I'm not taking any kind of action to

do anything productive. But that means that if

I want to care, I go and take action to do something

and it gets my mind off of my own challenges, whatever

that can be. So it's reading a book and it is oftentimes are things I

do by myself. It doesn't mean I'm going out and focusing on helping other people.

It could be, it could very much be a self care action. But it's these

things that I'm just not discounting that rejuvenate me and energize me.

Yes. And help me to get out of the junk that I'm really struggling

with. Exactly. I mean, I think, I just look at

kids today and I think that's one of the things, or I think of the

book Amusing Ourselves to Death and how

it's all about distraction and it's not healthy distraction. It's

very passive distraction and it's spending time with

the TV or the iPad or the Nintendo

instead of with others that is healthy and, and

recreating, recreating ourselves. So we

have to find those ways that we find healthy

rhythms in our day to day life through a schedule or whatever

happens to be, and then cut out those distractions that are

draining you. You know, work can be draining,

but what are you doing afterwards to fill your cup? Right.

Well, with my girls in my small group at Switch, I,

they always, we always challenge what is which.

It's the small group, it's the youth. Group at our

church. Youth group. Okay. So I challenge them and I always

want to look at their screen time because people say that

they're so busy they don't have any time. I'm like, let me see your screen

time, let me see how long you're on your phone. Because people don't realize how

much time they waste on that phone when they. Say they don't have time

for self care. Look at their phone. Or they don't have time for relationships or

something healthy in their life because that will indicate that they could feel free up

time. Right? Yes, right away. Boy. Yeah. Can you imagine going like

a week without zero screen time? Well, I don't know if that's actually

possible just because we're tied to our phones and our phones

are possible. Well, actually, I'm going to interrupt because I just saw

an interview with Tim Cook and somebody was asking him

about the phone and he said we never developed the

phone to be as much involved in our lives

as it is today. And he goes in his own day.

Of course he's a little different because he's got secretaries and such. But he says

on an average day my phone time is under 10 minutes.

That's amazing. And it's just like. But it does say, I mean,

he's a powerful, confident CEO

and why? Well, because he's creating healthy rhythms in

his Life and his own product is not

stealing that time from him. Yeah, it was fascinating. I was like,

really? So we're going to challenge ourselves to have less screen time. It's

a great challenge right there. I'm okay with it. Absolutely. I'm for it.

Absolutely. So the seventh thing you can do, and I want to go over that

after I do. One more plug for Shatterproof is go check out if you found

this helpful shadow, proof yourself light, go through the content, give us some

feedback, comment, give us feedback and fill out the worksheet. Download it, go through

it. You're going to find it helpful. It's going to really make this stuff sink

in and drive it home. All these ways that you can when you're feeling insecure,

step back and build confidence back into your life and go to that next thing.

Yeah, action. The action. Filling out those, that's the key. That's the key,

man. I mean, do the dang worksheet. Do it. Okay, so

seventh thing is to, is to build. Build healthy relationships. Okay? So

you're. You have these relationships in your life. You're struggling with insecurity. Go

and engage one of your friends. Do something with somebody. I

mean, we make, we don't make our clients develop a monkey list, but we

challenge them to identify the monkeys, their life. You know, if I look at my

legacy plan, which is a plan for my life that I look at in the

morning, that reminds me of who are the go to people in my

life that can fill me up and I forget because life is

overwhelming and life gets consuming in other areas. But I

remember, hey, that's somebody I can reach out to. Those are the guys I can

call. I can text him and I'll have something with my perspective saying, well,

they don't want to talk to you or, you know, you're not

worthy of reaching out to them. But it reminds me, yes, I am, I am,

and I can focus on that. So we deal with relationships and what can we

do here? We can go ahead and develop our own monkey list. These are the

people in your life that, you know, you can rely on. And it goes back

to this experiment where they have a monkey in a cage and terrify the monkey.

And they measure cortisol levels in the monkey because of loud noises and gongs and

fire, and it's through the roof because the monkey's in a very terrifying fight or

fly type situation. They take the monkey's buddy, but put them in the cage with

him or her, reproduce the experiment. Cortisol levels drop significantly.

We. We do the same thing. I mean, we're not monkeys and everything, but we

have a stress response that decreases significantly when

we go through life with somebody else on our side with somebody else that

we're walking through. And it can't just be one person. Honestly, that can't just be

one. We have to have at least two monkeys in our life. That.

That's real. There's real. Some real significant evidence that I have seen

experientially when people just have one person. Because it's like

you can't in a marriage go to your spouse for everything. In fact,

that won't lead to a healthy marriage. No, you

can't. Yeah. So it's like you say, you have to have a group.

Just think about. You don't need 20. But I would suggest you look and find

ways to build two or three monkeys in your life. You know, people that you

can go to and be very careful and selective. You don't get. They don't get

that monkey stamp if they're not worthy of that

monkey stamp. Right. You show me your friends and I'll tell you your future. Yeah.

And a lot of people, I will tell you in this world have some. Some

friendship deals that they would. I would not qualify them as people that are showing

up for them. They're going back to empty wells, basically. Not people

that are draining. And it's all people they're helping and they're not actually helping them.

Right. Got to be very careful with that. So you find ways to one, build

that monkey list. You find ways to go first in your life and you show

up. Showing up is a huge deal. You find and you can

identify who your monkeys are because they're the ones that show up when you need

them the most. The ones that don't. There's a problem

there. And I'm not perfect at this. I'm not saying I'm a fellow traveler as

I share this content here. Do not for one second think I got all this

figured out. And I'm perfect. I'm a great. I'm the awesome friend in every situation.

I'm not. But I work hard on it, and it is a priority for

me. And I want to have times when I'm struggling to remember that I have

these people in my life that want to be there for me. And I can

call Brent and I can text Troy and I can reach out to Ben and

I can talk to Alan and I can reach out to these people.

Big, big deal. You know how important friends are to me. They're

like my livelihood, like, and I don't know what I would

do without my friends. My friends are the family that I created,

and I'm very intentional with that. And that's something that

I probably almost spend too much time on sometimes as

my friends. But I'll not regret the time I've spent with my friends

because relationships are the core of who I am.

That's like saying there's too many flowers in the world. That is exactly right.

Big deal. Big deal. Big deal. So leaders struggling with

confidence, go ahead and do one of these

actions. You know, clarify your vision, get some perspective, start visualizing it

differently. Face your past in some way. Just really identify that it's impacting you

in this situation and probably the impact on your confidence in that situation.

Know how you can show up for yourself, how you add value to other people's

lives. Shift your perspective, own your emotions, deal with your

emotions, identify them, write them down. Do some self care, which by the

way, is going to help you focus less on yourself. So focus less on yourself

because you're engaging in self care and reach out to those friends that you know

care for you and can be there and can show up and will show up

for you. You know who they are. Build new ones as well. All of these

will help you with your confidence. Try it. These are different. Yeah, These are real

world strategies that will help improve your confidence

in your life in all aspects. Highly recommended. It's

it Transformational. Transformational. And

just by talking about this with you guys today, you guys have

helped me to grow in my confidence, giving me feedback, helping me

shift my perspective. Your friends help you with all seven of these. I mean, all

six of them. They help you with each. Each and your good friends are going

to encourage you in all these areas. So, you know,

one little story I got to show to you, tell you about

is I decided to go see my daughter in Boston this weekend, hope the weather

holds up. But she was dealing with a little bit of homesickness

at school. She's been there for six weeks. And

I had some friends who encouraged me to go visit her. I wanted to go

visit her, but they really gave me that kind of get over the hump, buy

your tickets. So I bought my tickets, got my rental car, got my hotel room,

and she texted me today saying, and this is after I was struggling with

confidence, but she texted me saying, I'm so excited for you to come visit me.

And I texted her back, I said, hey, you know, I'm here

for you. I can't wait as well and just wanted her to know, like, that's

one of my goals in life. On my legacy plan is the one thing I

want to be remembered for. Being there when you needed him most. That's. That's one

thing I be he was there when I needed him the most. And

I want to live up to that. And that's reminding. It's a big

challenge, but responsibility for them because that's

what I want from people around me and that's what I have from my good

friends. So in summary, we've already summarized. I want to just wrap it

up the way I always do. Your legacy is the impact

your life's going to have on others and is having on others a decision means

you're eliminating the noise and you're focusing

on the content. You focus on the core stuff.

That's a decision. So make a decision today to apply

something from this content to your life so that you can grow

in your confidence and move this forward. Move the needle in your

confidence. Make a decision. This will not change your life unless

you take action. 80% of transformational change is action. 20% or less

is insight. You gains insight by listening to this content

today. I want to close the today the way I

always do. Make it. Make a

decision to live your life. Okay. You decide your legacy.

No one else. Live the life today. You want to be remembered for 10 years

after you're gone. I appreciate you greatly and

I will see you next time. And as Sherman would say,

boom.