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and navigating life transitions while overcoming fear, stress,

and anxiety.

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Last Saturday, I went skeet shooting for the

first time ever.

I was anxious about this whole experience.

I'd never done it before.

It was, I knew one person going to

this fundraising event.

I hadn't shot a shotgun in close to

a decade, and it was an unfamiliar environment.

It's a familiar edge when I do something

new like that, and I'm almost, I'm generally

surprised that I feel so much anxiety, but

then I'm not surprised because it's mostly strangers

and I'm not skilled in that area.

It's not an area where I feel competency,

so I'm anxious.

I'm anxious, and I take my hat off

to people who do things that they know

are going to trigger anxiety.

I take my hat off to you, and

I realize when I do it that I

don't do it as much as I could

because I say no because I'm feeling anxious

about it.

You know you're experiencing some social anxiety when

you feel that tendency to want to avoid.

I felt like I wanted to cancel it

or make an excuse.

I don't feel good or something to not

actually engage in it, and then I did,

and yes, it was uncomfortable.

It was awkward, but at the end of

it, I was glad that I did it.

I focus on it now, and I'm really

glad that I did it.

I actually met some cool people, and I

realized that I may one day like hunting,

which I didn't really ever think that I

would, and I may even like fishing, which

that to me would shock me if I

engage in it.

I may actually like it.

Here's the truth.

Everybody, and I mean everybody has anxiety.

The only people that don't have anxiety are

either inebriated or they're deceased.

And we have this ability, which is a

good thing and a bad thing, to recognize

potential danger in a situation and focus on

it so we can prevent experiencing harm.

So it happens to everybody.

It's the most common mental health challenge that

I hear about as a mental health professional

for many years, and it's the most common

thing that you're going to experience in your

life and you can do things to prepare

for it.

Everybody has it, and this is the reason

I think a lot of people in social

situations, they do things to lighten up, and

they will engage in drinking or engage in

some addictive type behavior before the interaction or

during in order to loosen it up.

That happens commonly, but it's something you can

work on, and we're going to work on

that today.

Social anxiety specifically is when you're focused on

what can go wrong in a social type

interaction.

It can be a new experience, like you're

going skiing for the first time, you're golfing,

you're going to join and engage in some

cycling event.

It can be being introduced to somebody new,

talking to friends you already actually know but

you haven't seen them in a while, a

sales conversation.

It can be a team meeting that you

have, a conflict you want to address that

you're avoiding.

It can be something that is a legal

situation.

There's so many different types of social interactions

that you can engage in, and when you

feel that anxiety coming on, you can do

something about it.

It can be going to a leadership conference,

a conference at work, it can be going

to church.

What is it for you?

I want you to identify as you go

through this something that you know will probably

trigger some social anxiety for you, and then

to consider how you may apply this content

to engage that situation differently, with a strategy.

It could be that you're going to go

on a date, and maybe it's that you're

going to go on a date with your

wife, but you're going to approach it differently

with less anxiety because we can have anxiety

in situations that are familiar to us, but

we're going to approach it actually in a

different way.

Here's the thing, that if you don't engage

socially, you're going to miss out on life.

It's going to cost you.

We're made for community.

We're made for engagement.

We're made for connection.

It's the best part of life.

It's at least one of the best parts

of life, and if you don't engage things

socially, you limit your growth.

You don't see your potential because you see

it through other people and interacting.

You don't see opportunities that you could experience

because you're limiting yourself from exposing yourself to

those opportunities.

You don't make the friendships and build them

at a deeper level that you could.

You don't enjoy life.

You don't wake up excited about life when

you could if you change some things about

your life.

Social anxiety isn't a one-size-fits-all

kind of thing.

It varies by context.

You can have almost no anxiety in certain

situations because you feel a level of competency

or you're the boss, but in a new

situation where you're engaging somebody that has more

competency in an area, you might feel social

anxiety.

You can have it to where people look

at you and say, well, they're super confident.

Everything is comfortable for them, yet in another

situation, they don't necessarily know it, but you're

feeling a lot of anxiety, and recognizing that

in yourself is a really powerful thing because

it tells you something.

Anxiety is not a bad thing.

It communicates something you can work on, an

area where you can actually grow, which is

really powerful.

Today, I want to share with you, this

is called Social Anxiety Survival Skills, three steps

to walk into any room.

Yes, when you feel anxiety rising, whatever the

event might be, it's a simple loop that

you can engage in that is different.

It's mindset, a plan, and then engage.

Mindset, plan, engage.

Keep that in your head as we go

through this because we're going to walk through

it one piece, one step at a time.

Welcome to the Decide Your Legacy podcast.

I'm Adam Gregg, and my passion is helping

people find clarity so they can face the

core issues to move things forward, whether it's

a team, a leadership team, facing the core

issues to move things forward, or whether it's

you personally, so you can face it and

then take steps to take action to make

long-term change.

We are going to focus on change today,

and huge breakthroughs will come if you can

lean into this social anxiety, this anxiety issue,

and you can take some steps that are

different than what you've actually done in the

past.

The first step, mindset.

You can adopt, and you will adopt, and

I want you to adopt a healthy perspective

about the situation that you're going to engage.

Zig Ziglar is somebody that's inspired me.

He passed away.

He's a motivational speaker, and he talked about

an opportunity clock.

Your alarm clock, call it your opportunity clock

because when you wake up in the morning,

it is either something that triggers the dread

ahead or it can trigger you focusing on

the opportunity ahead.

When it goes off, and I want to

challenge you because it starts at the very

beginning of the day, your mindset, your perspective

about the day.

What are you focusing on most when you

get up in the morning?

Is it the opportunities ahead or is it

the things you dread?

Very commonly, we can focus on the things

that we dread, and you can't control your

thoughts, but you can influence them.

If I was going to give you and

challenge you and say, I will give you

$1,000 if you can have no negative

thoughts from today, from right now when you're

listening to this episode to the very end

of the day, would you take that bet?

We could hook you up to a lie

detector test, and you'd have to submit to

that, and then if you could go for

whatever the amount of time is, even an

hour, let's say you're listening to this before

bed, would you want to make that bet?

You could not win that bet.

I would take you up on that bet

because there's no way to fully control what

pops into your head, but there is a

way.

There is influence over how long you make

that and you allow that to stick, and

that's your mindset.

You have influence over that.

When you go into a social situation, do

you focus on what you can offer in

that situation?

You can encourage people.

Maybe you have a skill set you can

utilize.

You can smile.

You can be engaging.

You can be someone who they see as

friendly.

You can be somebody who can point out

the good things about them.

You can be that kind of person in

that situation, and there's good things that can

come out of it as well.

You can meet somebody new.

You can make a new friend.

You can utilize your skills.

You can have fun.

Maybe you enjoy something that you didn't think

you were actually going to enjoy.

You can get excited about the good that's

going to come from it.

That's where this healthier mindset starts from, so

if you're feeling anxious about something you have

ahead, maybe you're meeting a new person or

you're engaging in some family event or you're

making some sales calls, channel it, step back,

ask yourself, what's the good that can come

out of this?

What's the history that's been positive related to

this situation?

Where are you going to put your energy

before you go into it?

You can go through these three steps at

any point in that engagement.

You can step back and say, is it

my mindset?

Do I need to shift that?

You can do some work on it.

You can shift your mindset through simple activities.

I like one specifically that I like to

engage in, and it's what are the things

ahead in my day that I'm actually looking

forward to if I was at a healthy

place?

I like to write those down so that

I can start to shift, and what is

it specifically that can happen that's going to

go potentially well in this situation?

I can feel myself even.

I can feel myself shift inside that I'm

going from this bad place to this good

place.

People can even notice it in my body

language if they are aware.

I can notice it in my body language.

I start to relax.

I start to open my fists.

I start to breathe differently because I'm doing

some work on myself to enter in that

situation.

Good, powerful thing, and if I'm honest, what

I dread, and I want you to think

about this, what is it you dread about

social interactions at times?

If I'm honest with myself, I dread potential

rejection.

I dread potential failure.

I dread not knowing what to say.

I dread somebody judging me.

I dread somebody looking down on me.

I dread not feeling like I have something

to offer.

I dread those things, but that's all focused

on me.

That's all focused on me, and anxiety feeds

off of this focus on yourself, and so

I know if I step back from it,

if I shift that, I'm actually going to

get excited about these interactions potentially over time

because I'm shifting that mindset about it.

What could go right?

A lot can go right in your life.

You have all this stuff ahead.

Today is the first day of the rest

of your life.

You have all this stuff ahead that could

go right, and you can intentionally focus on

it.

I want you to ask yourself, when you

think back on your interactions with people, do

you remember the good ones more or the

bad ones when you go into social interactions?

That's going to give you some insight into

how your mindset works.

There's something called negativity bias.

It's when our brains channel into what could

go wrong.

There's something called confirmation bias.

It's when we're seeking out situations that explain

what we already believe, and we can believe

lies.

For example, do you believe personally that more

people die each year in the world from

sharks or from horses?

They die from horses, not from sharks.

They die from horses.

Horses are pretty dangerous if you engage a

horse in an unsafe fashion, but we can

believe what we think rather than challenging it

and stepping back from it.

That's my challenge to you.

Another challenge for you is in the moment

when the anxiety actually hits, just do this.

Just do this.

Put your hand on your belly, even if

you're sitting having lunch, and notice whether your

stomach is pushing out or not, whether you're

filling up your whole belly with air.

If you do, that's going to tell you

that you're actually breathing.

Breathing is a powerful way to deal with

anxiety.

When you're anxious, you take very shallow breaths.

You're going to do something contradictory to that

when you're focusing on your breathing in these

situations, and it's going to help you change

your mindset.

Try it.

Try it and see what actually happens.

Step two is get a plan.

Get a plan.

Social anxiety is telling you that you don't

have a good enough or even a plan

at all.

If you start creating a plan, it's going

to decrease the anxiety.

There's lots of different ways you can actually

formulate a plan.

A very simple plan is in the morning,

look at your schedule for the day.

That's part of planning.

The night before, that's part of planning, and

that will decrease your anxiety.

That's a simple act.

You can go deeper and actually bullet point

what your plan is going to be for

that event on an index card that you

carry with yourself.

You can start creating a plan.

Think about it this way.

If you were going to go to a

wedding and you were anxious about that wedding,

and you avoided and avoided because anxiety will

trigger us to want to avoid.

You were anxious about it.

It was a big deal.

It's a friend's wedding.

You want to go, and you keep avoiding,

and then you actually don't get ready for

the wedding until an hour before the wedding.

Of course you're going to be anxious, but

imagine if you thought about it the day

before and you decided on the outfit you

were going to wear.

You thought about who you were going to

see at that interaction, especially the ones that

the interactions could potentially make you anxious.

You thought about directions to the church or

wherever the facility is for the wedding.

You even looked at where the venue is

going to be for the wedding afterwards so

you knew where you were going to go.

You put some time into thinking about what

you wanted to say in the card, and

you actually wrote the card in advance rather

than thinking about engaging in it at the

last minute.

We know we're anxious often too when we

start procrastinating or perfectionating.

It's not a word, but I just think

about it.

We start doing something.

We lean in those areas, and a plan

doesn't have to be a perfect plan.

It just has to be a good plan,

a good enough plan, a solid plan, not

a perfect plan.

Perfection is the enemy in these situations.

It keeps you from wanting to actually even

create the plan in the first place.

Yet creating a plan is much easier, I

find, than I realize.

It takes me much less time to create

a plan than it does wasting energy on

being anxious about what's going to actually happen.

So I sit down, I create the plan.

If you were going to give a presentation

at a business meeting and you started to

think about how anxious you were because you

haven't presented on this topic and there's new

people and you're in a new position potentially

in your job, and you get anxious and

you start feeding that and thinking about what

can go wrong and all the people that

could judge you and how you're incompetent and

how it's not funded, then all of a

sudden you're anxious.

Of course you're anxious.

Of course you're anxious.

You can step back and say, that's a

sign that I need to do some planning

in this situation.

Now ask yourself here, think back on the

situations when you've been anxious socially and when

you haven't enjoyed the situation because you've been

anxious socially and how much planning did you

do ahead?

You probably didn't do much, if any.

You probably didn't even go through thinking about

why you're anxious about that.

What is it that you actually dread?

Did you ask yourself?

If you're afraid to make those phone calls,

did you ask yourself, what am I really

afraid of and identify it and then create

a plan to actually face it.

I would guess that you didn't do much

planning and that's something you can actually do.

So step one is to work on your

mindset.

Step two is to basically create a plan

and get prepared so you know how you

can engage it.

My plan is often in social situations, I

go back to this thought that I have

is to ask questions.

Be curious.

Just go in.

Even if I don't know the exact questions

I'm going to ask, just go in thinking

that you can engage people and talk to

people.

Sure you're going to share about yourself at

times, but you don't want to make it

about yourself.

You want to make it about them.

People love when you pay attention to them.

I can go to that even if I

feel anxious.

People love in general when you're interested in

their life and you're trying to understand them

and you're trying to get to know them

better because who doesn't love talking about themselves?

So be the guy who comes in that

people look at and say, they're probably going

to ask me some questions and be interested

in my life.

And that's an exciting thing that you can

engage in.

So whatever it is that you have, maybe

you're going to meet a new leader.

And actually, this is a real one for

me because after this recording I'm going to

go meet the president of the university where

I went to college.

And I'm kind of anxious about it because

I don't know this person and I asked

for the introduction.

I thought it'd be fun, but I also

am struggling with some anxiety.

So I wanted to practice what I preached

today.

And I wanted to engage in something that

was...

I wanted to share a real illustration with

you.

So I have a green index card and

I looked and wrote down some things to

prepare for this meeting.

I thought about what questions I want to

ask.

I thought about what commonalities we might actually

have.

I reminded myself to breathe and to be

curious because I will forget when I'm anxious

to do the things that I know I

can do.

And you will too.

That's why a plan is helpful.

You may not even look at your plan

much, but it's there as a safety...

as something that can decrease your anxiety in

the moment.

It's there for you.

So you get prepared.

In my plan, and I have some bullet

points, I even say it, relax and have

fun, Adam.

Enjoy your meal.

And it reminds me that I can step

into this thing and I have something to

offer.

Remember you have something to offer.

And I have some questions I want to

ask as well.

So maybe you're anxious about a family event

that's coming up because there's going to be

some family that you have some conflict with,

some unresolved conflict or unresolved resentment with that

person.

What might your plan be?

Maybe it's a few bullet points.

Stay curious.

Help with...

Let's say it's a meal with your family

and there's going to be people there.

Help with cleanup and setup so you're not

thinking about yourself.

Engage in the activities and the conversations that

people bring up.

Remember to not sit on the couch and

watch TV the whole time.

Remember to actually have conversations.

And then be committed to your plan.

And commitment means that you're going to execute

on that specific plan.

And that's really a powerful thing.

It does not have to be an elaborate

plan.

So my challenge for you is if you

feel stuck in building this plan, well, you

don't have to go through it alone.

You have people that care about you that

can help you with the plan.

So you can ask them for some feedback

and they will give you some feedback.

And that's a vulnerable thing to do.

And saying that you have some anxiety about

this situation and saying, what would you do?

Or how could I engage this?

Or what feedback do you have for me?

Nine times out of 10 I will find,

I find that when you trust somebody well

enough to ask, hey, what would you do

in this situation?

They're going to give you some valuable insight.

Even if they're not necessarily applying that to

themselves.

But they're going to try to help you

and they're going to feel valued by you

when you ask them for help in planning

whatever it is that you might be preparing

for that causes some anxiety in your life.

Very powerful thing.

It is asking for advice and they're going

to be more apt to trust you when

you're willing to say, can you help me

in this situation?

But you may have to challenge yourself to

say to yourself like, it's not a burden

to ask for genuine advice from someone who

cares about you.

It's not a burden.

It's actually a blessing to them to ask

for advice.

Don't overdo it.

I'm not saying to, don't give them control

over your life.

That's not what I'm talking about here.

I'm just saying step in and ask for

some feedback.

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You can even use this in an anxiety

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So the third, the third step to dealing

with social anxiety, of course, we started off

with mindset and then we talked about creating

a plan.

The third step is to get in the

arena.

It's to engage.

It's to step into that situation.

It's to not give yourself permission to quit,

to not give yourself permission because you're aware

that this is a triggering situation, but you're

focusing on the benefit that can come out

of it and so you're willing to still

engage it.

So if you lean into it, the best

stuff is going to come and I believe

the best orientation in life is to say

yes to invitations more than no.

I know you can't fit everything in your

life, but to say yes to those opportunities

and when you sense that social anxiety trigger

kind of thing, well, it's often a good

indication that it is something that you should

engage rather than something you should avoid.

Someone invites you to engage in an event

that you trust or your boss challenges you

to engage in an event and they are

someone you know cares about you and wants

you to succeed.

Well, lean towards saying yes.

When you get in the arena, you start

to gather new evidence about that social interaction

that starts breaking the pattern of avoidance and

worst outcome focus and you start to see

that things shift as you get in.

There's no real change unless you actually engage

though because the majority of the change that

happens is gonna come from getting new evidence

that's contradictory to what has triggered your anxiety.

That's it.

Right there.

It's a big deal.

And instead of it making about yourself, you

go in, and I find that anxiety always

decreases when I shift this me orientation and

it's about them.

And I start to smile and laugh and

I'm surprised at what can pop up in

my head that's engaging because I'm connected to

the actual situation and I'm flowing with it.

And I don't always do this.

And I often mess up and I often

have anxiety and I get sucked into it.

And if I learn to see even that

as a good thing, then that becomes a

blessing as well because it still reminds me

of the work I need to do in

that situation.

So let's say you walk over to somebody

that you don't know.

At a social interaction, you start a conversation.

You're not sure how to break the ice

with them, but you ask a genuine question

and they're rude and they give you cold

shoulder and you can just tell it's really

uncomfortable.

It's kind of like, so what do you

do if your worst fear of rejection actually

happens?

And I would challenge you to see that.

I know you won't feel like that in

the moment, but you can even see that

as a blessing because it challenges you to

step back and go back to your mindset

in that situation, to go back to your

plan and to step back in with somebody

else.

So you're practicing.

You're practicing.

There's good that can come out of that

in that specific situation.

And that's pretty encouraging because for me it's

encouraging because I even know if I think

about it that if I have a bad

situation, I can still practice in that situation.

And it actually makes me better if I

have that mindset because then I can bounce

back from that and then deal with the

next interaction and even tell myself the truth

that that's not about me.

It's not about me.

It's actually about them if I did it

in the right way.

And then it can be encouraging because now

I'm becoming more resilient.

Now I'm practicing.

I'm becoming more resilient because I'm in a

situation that is my worst case scenario.

And I'm realizing that I can bounce back

from it and make progress on it in

that situation.

And that's where you have real change because

the fear comes true and you bounce back

from it.

And you won't do this perfectly because these

interactions that you have socially, I will tell

you that it's healthiest to go into it

and believe that most of them aren't gonna

go as well as you hoped and most

of them aren't gonna go as bad as

you thought.

And most of them are going to be

a growth opportunity.

And that mindset is healthy.

It didn't go as well as I thought

or well as I wanted.

And sometimes, yes.

I mean, sometimes it'll go better than you

thought and better than you hoped, I would

say.

And sometimes it'll go worse than you wanted

it to.

And it's still something that you can grow

from.

What I have found is that rigidity is

the common elements in the emotional struggles that

people have with anxiety.

Rigidity.

Rigidity.

Rigidity is your enemy.

It's like rigidity is the inflexibility that you

can have going in thinking I'm gonna have

this perfect agenda.

And that even in itself is about me

because it's me wanting it to go a

certain way and discounting the fact that other

people have free will and can do what

they wanna do and I can't control what

they want to do.

I'm not the king.

I'm not the guy who gets to tell

people what to do.

So that in itself is the battle that

we face and it's the one that we

can step into and say, I can work

on my mindset.

I can work on this plan.

I can create a flexible plan.

I can adjust and I can work on

engagement.

I can still choose to engage even when

I don't feel like it.

Even when I feel like I've been rejected.

Even when I feel like it's not going

well because I have a game plan that

I can go back to and I can

step into and follow up with.

And I can remember to engage even when

I don't feel like it's going well.

So it's mindset, it's plan, and it's engagement.

And what you'll usually find is, and what

I find, is that the best evaluation of

how that situation went is not going to

occur right after the event.

I didn't mean for that to rhyme.

It just did.

It's you can evaluate it a week later

or a day later and you're going to

be clear-headed about how it actually went.

I mean, ask yourself, how many times did

you have a situation you didn't think go

well and reflecting upon it, it actually went

much better than you thought?

And so if you're talking to your friends,

I call my friends monkeys.

I mean, if you're talking to your monkeys,

then they're going to tell you the truth

about it and often have a better perspective

on it than you do initially after the

event.

And so if you are anxious after whatever

is social interaction, you feel like it didn't

go well, call one of your friends and

they might give you a healthier perspective on

it.

Again, that can be a very healthy thing.

And then what I find is that if

you evaluate it down the road, then you

can have a clearer perspective on it and

you realize that going into these situations, because

you have focused on your mindset, because you've

had a plan, and because you've engaged in

it, then you start to see you can

do it and it starts to actually change

how you're approaching things.

And people can go from being dreadful about

social interactions to actually starting to lean towards

the excitement area and starting to lean towards

I can engage in this thing and it

can be good.

And that's really powerful to see.

And then I see people's disposition, I see

people's attitudes towards social interaction start to change.

Because I've had clients, I mean, can have

tremendous social anxiety where they've been isolating, where

they've been spiraling, where they've been in some

cases hoarding, where they've been in some cases

losing jobs because they're isolating and not engaging

because they can't do their job.

And seeing that shift is really exciting.

I kind of have a cool job because

I get to see people change.

And I get to reflect on the fact

that people can actually change.

And that reminds me that I can change.

Because sometimes, often times, as I've done coaching

with people, I've felt like, man, they are

braver than me.

You know, like they are way braver than

me because what they're doing would scare me

a lot.

And on my side, as the coach, I

can say, yeah, that's easy.

But I know it's a lot more courage

than I have at that moment.

And I take my hat off to people

like that, man.

Because, at times I can say, I take

my hat off to Adam because I did

something that's brave.

And I want to feel that more.

Here's the challenge for you.

So again, going back to that very first

challenge that I gave you to think about

a situation where you have some social anxiety

right now is to go back to that

situation that you're thinking about that you have

some dread.

And maybe it's a conflict and maybe it's

a hard conversation.

And you know that dread is because you

have a tendency, you know you have it

because you have a tendency to want to

avoid it.

And it could even be a friendship that

you actually are engaging in.

And then think about how you're going to

apply this stuff right now.

And if you had a piece of paper,

you know, write it down.

Think about the mindset that you can shift.

The good that can come out of that

interaction.

Focus on a plan and write some things

down and get some thoughts on that plan.

And then focus on engagement.

And you know, commit.

It's like, you commit.

You just say it's the right thing to

do.

It's a good thing to do.

And I'm going to go ahead and do

it.

I'm going to apologize.

I'm going to go to that meeting.

I'm going to go to that conference.

I'm going to make those phone calls.

I'm going to talk to my wife.

I'm going to talk to my kids.

I'm going to reach out.

I'm not going to, you know, do something

weird.

I'm not going to be a weirdo.

But I'm going to engage in that situation.

So following up, three steps.

You got step one.

Mindset.

Perspective.

You got step two.

Create a plan.

Do some planning around it.

You got step three.

Go back and engage.

Get in the arena.

The man in the arena.

That's a great quote from Roosevelt.

Teddy Roosevelt.

Good stuff.

So, the challenge, pick one.

You know, it can be a low-stakes

kind of thing.

And that may be where you want to

start with this.

A low-stakes interaction.

Meeting somebody at a coffee shop.

That might be anxiety triggering.

Maybe not.

Maybe it's something that you know you want

to face.

But it's really a friend.

You know you can actually face it.

A co-worker that you don't know well

and you want to interact with them and

ask them a question.

Start with something.

Maybe it's someone at the gym.

A neighbor you haven't really talked to.

You got all kinds of opportunities around you.

And then run through this loop.

Run through this loop.

Give it just one try and see what

happens.

So your legacy is the impact that your

life has on other people.

A decision is when you're eliminating other options

you're saying I'm going to do this and

not that.

I'm going to decide.

I'm going to commit.

I'm going to actually engage in it.

So your future and your impact depends on

deciding your legacy.

I want to close the way I always

do.

Make it your mission to live the life

today that you want to be remembered for

10 years after you're gone.

You decide your legacy.

Nobody else.

I appreciate you greatly.

Thank you for tuning in and I will

talk to you very soon on the next

episode.